Listening linked to sense of self
Even across vastly different cultures, research suggests listening to teens’ problems gives them a stronger sense of self worth.
A study conducted in Ghana and the United States has found that when parents acknowledge the perspectives of their adolescent children and encourage them to express themselves, the youths have a stronger sense of self-worth, intrinsic motivation, and engagement, and also have less depression.
However, having the latitude to make decisions appears to function differently in the two cultures, with positive outcomes for youths in the United States but not in Ghana.
“A parenting approach that allows teens to feel they are being heard has been linked to youths being happier, more self-motivated, and more confident,” said research leader Kristine Marbell-Pierre.
“This type of parenting is considered western in its approach and there have been questions about its benefit in non-western, more hierarchical cultures that place greater emphasis on respect for and obedience to elders by children and youths.
“In our study, helping adolescents feel that their perspective mattered was helpful to youths—in both Ghana and the United States—while the role of decision making and choice differed between the two cultures.”
The researchers examined responses to questionnaires filled out by 245 students from the United States and 156 from Ghana.
Teens answered questions about the extent to which their parents acknowledged their point of view and allowed them to make decisions, have choices, and express their opinions.
Questionnaires also assessed the extent to which adolescents perceived their parents as controlling their behaviour, as well as adolescents’ academic motivation, sense of self-worth, level of depression, and perception of themselves as independent from their parents or as a unit with their parents.
The study found that parenting approaches that encouraged students to express themselves and acknowledged their points of view boosted youths’ self-motivation, engagement in school, and self-worth, and decreased their levels of depression in both countries.
Allowing adolescents to make decisions and have choices was associated with positive outcomes only in the United States.
This difference in the effects of who makes decisions and of choice was in part due to how adolescents viewed themselves, the authors found; those who saw themselves as independent felt that being allowed to make decisions supported their autonomy, while this was not the case for youths who perceived themselves as more a part of the family unit.
“Our study resolves conflicting findings from previous studies,” says research co-author Dr Wendy Grolnick.
“It suggests that supporting adolescents’ sense of agency is universally beneficial, but how this support is given may not necessarily look the same across cultures.”
The authors caution that while there are cultural differences overall between Ghana and the United States with respect to factors such as the extent to which autonomy is fostered in youths, there are also important variations across families within each culture that contribute to patterns for subgroups and individuals.